The Hard Truth About Couples Therapy
What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), and why does it help couples create lasting change?
Maybe you don't need another communication strategy. I hear some version of this from couples fairly often:
“We've tried therapy before.”
“We've read the books.”
“We know we're supposed to use ‘I’ statements.”
“We know we shouldn't interrupt each other.”
And yet... here you are.
Having the same fight and getting caught in the same patterns. Most of the couples I work with say they are feeling disconnected despite genuinely wanting things to be different.
This is one of the reasons I value Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT).
Because while communication skills matter (and yes, we will absolutely talk about them) I don't believe lasting change comes from simply handing a couple a list of five things to do differently during an argument.
Most of the time, we need to understand what is actually happening underneath the argument.
